{"id":34173,"title":"MOVEMBER: Last Blog","description":"I'm led to believe men are driven by their primal programming of impressing & attracting womenMore than this, they are also completely terrified of rejection from women. This sounds like a challenging quandary to live by.","content":"

I'm led to believe men are driven through life by their primal programming to impress & attract women. This is their main focus, whether it's conscious or subconscious.<\/p>

More than this, they are also completely terrified of rejection from women. This seems like a challenging quandary to live by, to me.<\/p>

\"qqcgkvf5vn41rw00fzdpzrtteaudooczftlqcnpllgheg7hh.jpg.jpg?w=1140&v=2\"Many men (young men especially), want \u2018muscles\u2019. They believe this is one of the best strategies to be attractive & accepted by women they are attracted to. However, this strategy might be flawed, as firstly it only addresses superficial elements. In my experience, men are far more attractive when they have confidence - regardless of their \u2018looks\u2019. Secondly, women are not motivated to entertain men because they \u2018have muscles\u2019 only. There has to be more..there's nothing more attractive then confidence!<\/p>

For instance, do men generally, (or women for that matter) work on developing their sense of humour? Or in my opinion more importantly, their strength of character?<\/p>

\"fn23mivgkxr1jpwudprf8mxgmoqqk1hq8u9jvr2aqcns97sh.jpg.jpg?w=1140&v=2\"It must be said that above all else (according to research but also in my experience) the most important element to attracting the person of your affections is showing them kindness & compassion. Although it takes confidence to be kind..<\/p>

Note the difference here between showing kindness & being taken advantage of. Couple kindness with boundaries & it's a killer combination for increasing your attractiveness! <\/p>

Following on from this idea, is another social aspect I would like to address which is the idea of \u2018friend-zoning\u2019. To me, this would be kindness without boundaries ie doing everything for the person of affection without setting boundaries, just because we like them. I also have never liked the term \u2018friend zone\u2019 though, as it dissolves the importance of true friendship, which is a great shame in a world where most people crave connection. Friendship should be valued & appreciated.<\/p>

\"my7c2siwhjgowewbwc72apgmcxgdn5uqdxaam0r9fauhncud.jpg.jpg?w=1140&v=2\"A more satisfying & constructive idea might be to work on ourselves to build our own confidence, through pushing ourselves to try new things (when we feel uncomfortable ie \u2018feel the fear & do it anyway\u2019), as well as building our integrity (doing the right thing even if no one is looking) & building self discipline (pushing ourselves to do something when we don't feel like it). <\/p>

Kindness, compassion & tolerance are also great additions to building strength of character. Try as many things to educate yourself, as possible. New hobbies, books, skills on things you would never normally think about. It broadens your horizons, enriches your life, builds confidence of course but also\u2026you never know what opportunities may arise! Stay open & remain teachable..<\/p>

These are only a few examples but would be a great start in building confidence in ourselves. The more we do these things & do them consistently (self discipline), the greater our confidence is. Interestingly, this is also a self perpetuating cycle building on itself. It is a positive spiral to greatness, rather than focusing on what we look like.<\/p>

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Building on the original point about superficial elements, real women are ladies who are worth their weight in gold - the \u2018marriage material\u2019 ones. The women who understand appreciation of what's important in life. These women are dicerning in their choices & do not seek external validation & self worth from how much male attention they gain. These are the women to aim for. <\/p>

They possess confidence, values & think for themselves. They should not be feared though. Men should never feel intimidated by them, as they also have great understanding & kindness. They appreciate when men approach them & if genuinely not interested, will decline advances with grace, so as not to harm the man, if he has been courageous enough to approach with respect. <\/p>

Muscles are attractive to look at but serve little purpose unless physical strength is required in a situation, which is relatively uncommon. To reiterate, it is far more important to have confidence in ourselves & be self assured enough that we are not easily knocked by other's opinions. <\/p>

\"zas9cvmje63ovm871mjuzr7oduds0nw2jnja2sy2ztltyyjm.jpg.jpg?w=1140&v=2\"The only way to achieve this is giving ourselves strength of character through opening up to as much experience, as we can. It helps also, if we can find some good & proper role models - people with integrity, life experience, morals & principles which they stand by. These could be historic figures who have contributed great positive impacts to the world. The Stoics (such as Marcus Aurelius) are as good a place to start, as any & offer great wisdom which still resonates today..HERE<\/a> is a link to a useful YouTube channel about Stoicism.<\/p>

I hope you enjoyed the last Movember blog. If you liked this blog & would like to show your support, HERE<\/a> is an Ego v Soul tee which may resonate with you.<\/p>

If you are curious about the rest of this series, find them HERE<\/a><\/p>

Look out for the December blog series of DIY CHRISTMAS!<\/p>

Until next time, bye for now.<\/p>

Elle Russell (Egeiro Naturals Founder).<\/p>","urlTitle":"movember-last-blog","url":"\/blog\/movember-last-blog\/","editListUrl":"\/my-blogs","editUrl":"\/my-blogs\/edit\/movember-last-blog\/","fullUrl":"https:\/\/egeironaturals.com\/blog\/movember-last-blog\/","featured":false,"published":true,"showOnSitemap":true,"hidden":false,"visibility":null,"createdAt":1701097958,"updatedAt":1701137761,"publishedAt":1701137761,"lastReadAt":null,"division":{"id":295283,"name":"Egeiro Productions"},"tags":[],"metaImage":{"original":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/iwav87phgcwjunbshvu3asyfqfolpfm1fx3qz8wtll84ylpi.jpeg?z=1.7662756136146&fx=0.49749294280831&fy=0.2830815282428","thumbnail":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/iwav87phgcwjunbshvu3asyfqfolpfm1fx3qz8wtll84ylpi.jpeg.jpg?w=1140&h=855&z=1.7662756136146&fx=0.49749294280831&fy=0.2830815282428","banner":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/iwav87phgcwjunbshvu3asyfqfolpfm1fx3qz8wtll84ylpi.jpeg.jpg?w=1920&h=1440&z=1.7662756136146&fx=0.49749294280831&fy=0.2830815282428"},"metaTitle":"MOVEMBER: Men & Rejection","metaDescription":"An Egeiro Naturals blog discussing men, rejection & ways to overcome it.","keyPhraseCampaignId":null,"series":[],"similarReads":[{"id":33674,"title":"MOVEMBER: Men's Skincare","url":"\/blog\/movember-mens-skincare\/","urlTitle":"movember-mens-skincare","division":295283,"description":"For the 2nd blog celebrating Movember, we will look at men's skincare. Did you know, men's skin is less acidic than women's skincare? Men's skin pH ranges between 5. 5 & 5","published":true,"metaImage":{"thumbnail":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/bj0alypihiqppvwb0ufecpydxydgyitlashxovxrfeaxja8j.jpeg.jpg?w=1140&h=855&z=1.3548436995299&fx=0.63095374014473&fy=0.44387121541889","banner":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/bj0alypihiqppvwb0ufecpydxydgyitlashxovxrfeaxja8j.jpeg.jpg?w=1920&h=1440&z=1.3548436995299&fx=0.63095374014473&fy=0.44387121541889"},"hidden":0},{"id":33360,"title":"MOVEMBER: Celebrating Men & Masculinity","url":"\/blog\/movember-celebrating-men-masculinity\/","urlTitle":"movember-celebrating-men-masculinity","division":295283,"description":"Does anyone else notice a change in the role of men in recent years?I feel as if men (as a collective) in today's world have lost their purpose, or at least struggle to find it at times. This makes me sad because when a man is feeling at his best, he provides the most wonderful experience of life. It's in his actions in sometimes the subtlest of ways","published":true,"metaImage":{"thumbnail":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/rlbnblepubh1zg5eynpbq4907o2a7udb1lg4gx6utlmt7wl3.jpeg.jpg?w=1140&h=855","banner":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/rlbnblepubh1zg5eynpbq4907o2a7udb1lg4gx6utlmt7wl3.jpeg.jpg?w=1920&h=1440"},"hidden":0},{"id":29528,"title":"EGEIRO NATURALS BIO","url":"\/blog\/bio\/","urlTitle":"bio","division":295283,"description":"Inspired by many things & people in life, Nature has always been at the heart of my endeavours, whether it be in art, music (analogue sound waves are an amazing phenomenon of Nature), or food (homegrown tastes the best!) - or in more recent years, skincare (both male & female. Did you know, male skin is less acidic than female skin?!- FUN FACT). With Art, Music & Gardening ingrained in my family & a lifelong fascination of Science, it was inevitable Egeiro Productions would appear eventually","published":true,"metaImage":{"thumbnail":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/wdlx4endd3mdfqrbf8w1lnscno6ep1wirnwwbn50smhhlpjm.jpeg.jpg?w=1140&h=855","banner":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/wdlx4endd3mdfqrbf8w1lnscno6ep1wirnwwbn50smhhlpjm.jpeg.jpg?w=1920&h=1440"},"hidden":0}],"labels":[]}