{"id":33897,"title":"MOVEMBER: Listening Is Kindness","description":"What's the deal with guys not talking with each other?. . Really talking\u2026So many times, I've had men expressing to me that they get on better with women & cannot talk to their friends about issues which are bothering them\u2026and yet the suicide rate remains high & is becoming increasingly worse.","content":"

\"pc0uznfobgitkomq828phmiexknurf9uv9pgpfs7lifvvar6.jpg.jpg?w=1140&v=2\"What's the deal with guys not talking with each other?..Really talking\u2026<\/p>

So many times, I've had men expressing to me that they get on better with women & cannot talk to their friends about issues which are bothering them\u2026and yet the suicide rate remains high & is becoming increasingly worse. The Movember Movement helps to build awareness for male suicide & works to reduce them. If you would like to assist Movember help the men you love, click HERE.<\/a><\/p>

\"em8cjusu4ouirbzge9fbomvcfxlzxksq4qz5pxv2dfez9ebw.jpg.jpg?w=1140&v=2\"I was glad when I ran my own business as a qualified massage therapist, to act as a \u2018sounding board\u2019 providing a safe environment for clients (both men & women) to vent their life frustrations. While women were glad at the first chance to get things off their chests & would jump in with both feet without a second thought, men would usually require more time to get into a flow.<\/p>

\"wyiuyeg70tc8yetgmzzs75gf5xcihb9hwyytahfwmptentzs.jpg.jpg?w=1140&v=2\"However, once the men began to talk, they would struggle to stop, sometimes running over time in a session. I found the same story from many of them. As much as they considered their friends to be great for socialising etc, they couldn't talk to them about deeper issues, for fear of being ridiculed or being seen as \u2018less of a man\u2019..<\/p>

\"d6auiga49w0eduvt1xggq263xd1eyj7bucci7qlp56ay6dzo.jpg.jpg?w=1140&v=2\"These were men of various ages & backgrounds. My clients would range from twenty something fitness enthusiasts & established businessmen, to marines & family men\u2026Why were they all finding the same obstacles?!<\/p>

\"uzqtp7sdp29i3cri1xbgkmozbzkdikdu9kq8nkcastz3qgw9.jpg.jpg?w=1140&v=2\"Rightly or wrongly, my perspective would be ego issues in one form or another. Not necessarily of my clients but the people around them, as my clients were expressing a need for a safe communication space but were uneasy about opening up to friends.<\/p>

Importantly, many people grow up dreaming of getting a steady income, being married & having children but just what are we teaching our children?..<\/p>

Check out this \u201cEgo v Soul\u201d tshirt HERE <\/a>which was created to raise awareness for the increasing issues in today's world caused by Ego\/Soul imbalance. It appears to be already worryingly prevalent, through corporate environments, to family issues. My view would be, we must pay more attention to not only brushing up on our communication skills but also the now distant but basic values such as common courtesy & manners, respect & integrity.<\/p>

It's been a long-standing belief that men should not express their emotions - either to women or men, as they would appear less masculine to both other men & women. I have been told this over & again from men, even outside my work. Who decided on this view? Do the recipitents of the communication feel threatened?..What needs to happen to create a more receptive society?\u2026So many questions..<\/p>

My view is that open & honest communication takes strength & courage. Being vulnerable (in my view), is very<\/em> masculine - not to mention healthy. Of course, a healthy mentality requires balance in many aspects of life, not least diet & exercise but effective communication is the very foundation of healthy relationships of all kinds.<\/p>

Another view could be that the prospective listener of men, is giving into low self worth by making the speaker feel \u2018less than\u2019 (this is based in ego. The soulful alternative would be compassion for a fellow human).<\/p>

Maybe it reminds them of their own personal issues not yet resolved? With the world moving so fast these days, it has possibly become more challenging to reflect on our behaviours towards others properly & adjust things accordingly. Has the cost of convenience finally become too much?<\/p>

\"4lymwhf6agg8nx5slntle3s8yiqxd1k9wn9665j4accc136c.jpg.jpg?w=1140&v=2\"An excellent (but simple) way to combat some of these issues & bring positivity into our day, might be \u201c5 Random Acts Of Kindness\u201d. A popular movement a few years ago, it can be difficult to do at first but is more than worth it & also becomes easier the more we do it!<\/p>

Both parties benefit<\/strong> because little known fact,<\/em> the giver actually receives<\/em> through giving! It brings warmth to the day, in an otherwise cold & harsh world\u2026These acts of kindness can also be spread over a week..it's easier than it first appears & brightens the day for everyone. Who doesn't want that?!<\/p>

Here's a revelation!<\/strong>..listening<\/em> can also be an act of kindness! Imagine, knowing you made someone's day easier, just by listening to them..how does it make you feel? How would you feel if someone offered you a listening ear?\u2026just listening, without advice.<\/p>

\"jt0n2cc7kiun3poixdq53qr3h4zd9pjpotjsi6u0vqmsro1x.jpg.jpg?w=1140&v=2\"As a qualified Life Coach, my focus was always leaning towards assisting people build\/rebuild their Self Esteem. My dream would be for a pandemic of healthy Self Esteem! How can you help me achieve that dream?!\u2026\ud83d\ude09\ud83d\udcab\ud83d\udc96<\/p>

Look out for the last Movember blog next week!<\/p>

Until next time, bye for now,<\/p>

Elle Russell (Egeiro Naturals Founder).<\/p>","urlTitle":"movember","url":"\/blog\/movember\/","editListUrl":"\/my-blogs","editUrl":"\/my-blogs\/edit\/movember\/","fullUrl":"https:\/\/egeironaturals.com\/blog\/movember\/","featured":false,"published":true,"showOnSitemap":true,"hidden":false,"visibility":null,"createdAt":1700508547,"updatedAt":1701137737,"publishedAt":1701137737,"lastReadAt":null,"division":{"id":295283,"name":"Egeiro Productions"},"tags":[],"metaImage":{"original":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/lsqpqy9irdrizduqpxbxguj3v1h5epfeuwxmtlvdbgojzdia.jpeg","thumbnail":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/lsqpqy9irdrizduqpxbxguj3v1h5epfeuwxmtlvdbgojzdia.jpeg.jpg?w=1140&h=855","banner":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/lsqpqy9irdrizduqpxbxguj3v1h5epfeuwxmtlvdbgojzdia.jpeg.jpg?w=1920&h=1440"},"metaTitle":"MOVEMBER: Listening Is Kindness","metaDescription":"A discussion on issues men face in talking to each other.","keyPhraseCampaignId":null,"series":[],"similarReads":[{"id":34251,"title":"DIY CHRISTMAS CRAFTS: Gift Ideas","url":"\/blog\/diy-christmas-crafts-gift-ideas\/","urlTitle":"diy-christmas-crafts-gift-ideas","division":295283,"description":"How's your Christmas gift budget? Want to cut it & save money for the long, cold weeks of January? Read on. . What if you could make personalised gifts for the ones you love? Gifts which nourish them inside & out, making them feel loved & pampered","published":true,"metaImage":{"thumbnail":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/xhjvdqxpii3igjooauuttf9szov74cttg7n9glm0fdykqvqf.jpeg.jpg?w=1140&h=855","banner":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/xhjvdqxpii3igjooauuttf9szov74cttg7n9glm0fdykqvqf.jpeg.jpg?w=1920&h=1440"},"hidden":0},{"id":29528,"title":"EGEIRO NATURALS BIO","url":"\/blog\/bio\/","urlTitle":"bio","division":295283,"description":"Inspired by many things & people in life, Nature has always been at the heart of my endeavours, whether it be in art, music (analogue sound waves are an amazing phenomenon of Nature), or food (homegrown tastes the best!) - or in more recent years, skincare (both male & female. Did you know, male skin is less acidic than female skin?!- FUN FACT). With Art, Music & Gardening ingrained in my family & a lifelong fascination of Science, it was inevitable Egeiro Productions would appear eventually","published":true,"metaImage":{"thumbnail":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/wdlx4endd3mdfqrbf8w1lnscno6ep1wirnwwbn50smhhlpjm.jpeg.jpg?w=1140&h=855","banner":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/wdlx4endd3mdfqrbf8w1lnscno6ep1wirnwwbn50smhhlpjm.jpeg.jpg?w=1920&h=1440"},"hidden":0},{"id":36319,"title":"CHINESE NEW YEAR","url":"\/blog\/chinese-new-year\/","urlTitle":"chinese-new-year","division":295283,"description":"This February will see in the Chinese New Year on the 10th & 2024 is the year of the Wood Dragon!Chinese tradition follows aspects of the natural environment & has a strong belief in energy based ideas. For instance, the 4 directions are assigned Earth elements water, fire, wood, metal. The life force we all carry is known as \u201cChi\u201d as in Tai Chi which is an extremely beneficial practice (or martial art) which allows our bodies to work the way they should","published":true,"metaImage":{"thumbnail":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/18nygag7h7cfqratm6adypbqasl9hykvwp7nbkjp1b7m39go.jpeg.jpg?w=1140&h=855","banner":"https:\/\/images.podos.io\/18nygag7h7cfqratm6adypbqasl9hykvwp7nbkjp1b7m39go.jpeg.jpg?w=1920&h=1440"},"hidden":0}],"labels":[]}